adequacy.

what is adequate? what is appropriate? and what is taking it too far?

a lot of problems between people are often raised amongst people due to the being a lack of something. a lack of respect. a lack of care. a lack of love. a lack of trust.

what may be substantial to one person, may be inadequate to another. to some, we often offer the best, put everything out there on the table, with nothing held back and everything to lose. on the other hand, there are those we have our reservations for - the slight doubt and uncertainty that arises from putting everything on the line, knowing that you yourself will get hurt. so why the lack of blahblahblah? why is it hard to let go, to jump into freefall and just appreciate what is in front of you.

whilst the lack of blahblahblah may often cause ripples between people, and at worse, completely push two people away, it often makes certain people realise what has been right in front of them - i know, how cliche. in saying that, to those that are pushed to the limits and beyond the point of return, all they are able to do is either mope around at their loss, hurt deep inside but at the same time be happy for the times they've had together, be happy that the other is happy from a distance, or just let go and forget everything they had ever existed.

sometimes inadequacy is better than nothing. most people would rather to have something than nothing right? but it gets to a point where that something may begin to feel forceful. letting go may be hard and hurtful, but holding on a pretending aches even more in the long run.