misc.

so who here is guilty of standing by and letting important things, significant things, or even just minuscule things pass by and not do anything about it?

im pretty sure the majority of us here have just stood by and done nothing. but is there really ever a time we should step in
? especially when interfering with other people's business. to you, you may seem to be caring, to others, it may seem like your just in their face plain rude and annoying. whilst at times you get told off or ridiculed for just standing there like a tree and let everything pass by, other times you also get hassled about meddling and interfering. so what exactly is the point? you don't do anything to mind your own business and to give them personal space, and you intervene or act upon because you actually care. either way, you don't get appreciated half the time.

just recently i've realised some people are constantly being shut down day after day. to others it may seem hilarious, whilst to the person copping it, it can seem like hell. i guess i'm not the type who is all self righteous and steps in and takes action. i personally am more the type who would be there for the person, comfort them, make sure they're okay and just be there for support.

however, sometimes this care and support isn't enough. some people may just say you're all talk and no action as you don't do anything to act upon it, but at times little do these people realise the amount of effort, time and care you actually put into something. and all you get in return is....silence.

to some, silence may mean everything. to others it may mean the absence of something. whilst some people see person-x and person-y as two identical versions of another, x likes acknowledgment, whilst y doesn't like to make a fuss. x likes to talk, whilst y likes silence. when confronted about awkward silences y goes 'i like being with you because we don't have to say anything'. is that supposed to mean something nice? is it in his mind that just company and time together is enough, without communicating how the other feels?

silence and absence does make the heart grow fonder. you basically want what you can't have. but it gets to a point where you have waited long enough that it is time to think for yourself. at the same time, some silences should just be broken. simple acknowledgments, small acts of kindness and the little things to show that you remember and care all suffice.

but what do you do when the absence is there for good. when something is gone permanently. do you willingly accept defeat in a way or do you fight for it? some people don't realise what is standing right in front of them...but idk...i've just rambled on all blog from one thing to another with not much coherence...o wells and now idk how to end it. but yeaa...

some people just tell you to ignore things, to forget about things, and to just stop caring.
but it easier said than done, it isn't just some switch we can flick on and off.
if only the world worked like that.